The Wrong Goal<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n When we\u2019re feeling the negative effects of saying yes more than we should, it\u2019s very tempting to conclude that the goal of saying no ought to be self-preservation. We tell ourselves, \u201cI need to set boundaries so that I never experience burnout again.\u201d Our lives felt out of control before, so the goal must be to take control of our lives, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n And if self-preservation is the goal, then it\u2019s natural to understand boundaries <\/strong>as it is popularly understood\u2014\u201cBoundaries are personal property lines that set limits on who you are and who you are not, and influence all areas of your life\u2014physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. To define a boundary is to establish these limits and protect the areas of your life that matter most.\u201d But the problem is that the starting and ending point of all this is me. Boundaries shape who we are, and the goal of saying no is to preserve our well-being. But who defines boundaries for us? The boundaries defined in God’s Word are what truly shape our identity. While we may establish personal limits, it is God who ultimately defines our purpose and identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A boundaries-centered life becomes a therapeutic excuse to live a self-centered life. And that\u2019s not good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Right Goal<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In contrast, according to God\u2019s Word, the starting and ending point of all things is not me but God. Paul writes, \u201cFor from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen\u201d (Rom. 11:36). So, the glory of God is the goal of all things\u2014including saying no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We do not get to arbitrarily define boundaries to subjectively define ourselves, but God, our Creator and Redeemer, defines who we are and who we are not, and influences all areas of our lives\u2014physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Therefore, saying no or setting boundaries is not about taking control of your life, but it is a tool to help you live a God-glorifying life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Think of an Olympic race. There\u2019s a world of difference for the runner who just wants to avoid fainting as opposed to the runner who aims to represent his country well as he runs. The former probably won\u2019t run his best out of fear that he might faint; the latter will not only run his best but also in a way that ensures that he finishes and brings honor to the country he represents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not making this up! During the men\u2019s marathon in the 1968 Olympic Games in Mexico City, John Stephen Akhwari of Tanzania cramped up and fell to the ground as runners jockeyed for position. Consequently, he smashed his shoulder on the pavement and gashed his knee, dislocating that joint. But whereas 18 out of the 75 starters had pulled out of the race, he pressed on. He limped through the remaining miles and entered the stadium over an hour after the winner had crossed the finish line. The crowd gave him a standing ovation. When asked why he didn\u2019t give up when he knew he had no chance of winning, he answered, \u201cMy country did not send me 5,000 miles to start the race; they sent me 5,000 miles to finish the race.\u201d[1]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Similarly, our God did not create and redeem us for us to merely avoid burnout and preserve ourselves, but to finish our \u201crace\u201d and pursue his glory (2 Tim. 4:7-8). Paul wrote to the Corinthians, \u201cSo, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God\u201d (1 Cor. 10:31).<\/p>\n\n\n\n In everything we do, including saying no (or yes), we ought to ask ourselves whether we are doing this for the glory of God (\u201cIs my desire or goal in this to reflect and celebrate God\u2019s character and purposes?\u201d).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nonetheless, even once we\u2019re aligned with that right goal, we may still have trouble saying no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why is that? That\u2019s what we\u2019ll address in the next two parts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reflection Questions:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWell done, good and faithful servant\u201d (Matt. 25:21, 23). Those are the words that we all long to hear from the Lord Jesus one day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But for me, the problem was that I had a distorted understanding of what it meant to be \u201cfaithful.\u201d Becoming a Christian as a university student, I was repeatedly told that \u201ceverything rises and falls on leadership,\u201d[2]<\/a> which was another way of saying that everything rises and falls with me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why? Because as a Christian, I\u2019m a leader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why? Because every Christian is called to make disciples\u2014or to influence others\u2014and \u201cleadership is influence\u2014nothing more, nothing less.\u201d[3]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n And what is my scope of responsibility as a leader? Everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I set the example. I go the extra mile. I make sure no balls are dropped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In that paradigm, saying no (to anything) was unfaithfulness, and saying yes (to everything) was faithful. Such \u201cfaithfulness\u201d is chasing after wind, but I kept chasing nonetheless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I took on more and more and worked harder and harder. I so desired to be found \u201cfaithful\u201d that I burnt myself out in the process, unable to function. Looking back, I resonate with the sentiment of American comedian Lily Tomlin, who said: \u201cI always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI always wanted to be faithful, but now I realize I should have been more specific,\u201d I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our specific understanding of faithfulness must not be self-derived nor borrowed from the world. Instead, it must come from healthy boundaries defined by God\u2019s Word. The Master alone determines what faithfulness means for his servants\u2014and he has spoken in his Scriptures. When we are ignorant of how the Bible defines boundary meaning, we often end up loading extrabiblical burdens upon ourselves that are impossible to carry. And without setting boundaries, we risk losing sight of what truly matters\u2014our faithfulness to God\u2019s calling, not our attempts to meet every worldly expectation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What are the Bible\u2019s minimum standards of faithfulness in different areas of life?[4]<\/a> This may seem like an odd question to ask, but without being able to answer this question, we can\u2019t properly determine what it means to be faithful. If we are to be faithful, then there must be some standard that we meet; otherwise, we have no basis for knowing whether or not we actually are faithful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not saying that we should merely aim for the minimum (we may often exceed it), but faithfulness is at least defined by meeting the minimum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As Christians, three major areas of our lives are family, church, and work.[5]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Regarding family, the minimum standards of faithfulness are probably higher than many of us think. Wives are to \u201csubmit to [their] own husbands, as to the Lord,\u201d and husbands are to \u201clove [their] wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her\u201d (Eph. 5:22, 25-26). Children are to \u201chonor [their] father and mother,\u201d and parents are to \u201cbring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord\u201d (Eph. 6:1-2, 4).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Regarding church, the minimum standards of faithfulness involve meaningful commitment and connection to the life of a local church. The biblical metaphors for Christians are corporate in nature\u2014sheep among a flock (John 10:14-16), members of a body (1 Cor. 12:27), members in a family (1 Tim. 3:15), stones in a temple (Eph. 2:21), and citizens in the kingdom of God (Phil. 3:20). Additionally, the New Testament has many \u201cone another\u201d commands for Christians, which are routinely summarized in something like a church covenant. In general, we are to love one another (1 Pet. 2:17; Gal. 5:13; 6:10; Eph. 4:32; Rom. 15:1; 12:10, 13, 15-16), encourage one another (1 Thess. 5:11; Heb. 10:24-25), guard one another (Heb. 3:12-13; 12:15-16; Matt. 18:15-17; 1 Cor. 5:1-5), and obey our leaders (Heb. 13:17; 1 Pet. 5:5)\u2014all of which are to be lived out in the life of a local church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, if you voluntarily take on particular roles and responsibilities in the church (e.g., elder, deacon, treasurer, clerk, small group leader, children\u2019s ministry teacher, etc.), then the minimum standards of faithfulness in this area will grow to match those additional responsibilities. But as a church member, the minimum standards of faithfulness are simply gathering regularly with your church for Lord\u2019s Day worship and being in meaningful relationships with others in the church where you\u2019re intentionally doing spiritual good to your fellow members.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In relationships, setting boundaries is an essential part of maintaining both emotional and spiritual health. Understanding what is a boundary in a relationship can help define the limits necessary to ensure mutual respect and personal well-being. For example, healthy relationship boundaries allow individuals to protect their time, energy, and emotions while still offering love and service to others. These boundaries aren’t about shutting others out but about defining what is healthy and sustainable for both parties involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Knowing how to set boundaries in a relationship is especially important when we seek to love others well, without sacrificing our own spiritual health. Establishing clear boundaries helps avoid burnout and ensures that we honor God in all our interactions, recognizing that He has called us to balance service with self-care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Regarding work (our vocations), the minimum standards of faithfulness are probably lower than many of us realize. We are to work diligently (Col. 3:23-24) to support ourselves (2 Thess. 3:10-12), to provide for our family (1 Tim. 5:8), and to give to those in need (Eph. 4:28). It\u2019s nice to have a job that maximizes your gifts and talents and that you find meaningful and enjoyable, but those are not biblical requirements for faithfulness.[6]<\/a> Most people around the world, past and present, have not had such privileges available to them, yet they can still be faithful to work diligently to support themselves, provide for their family, and give to others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we are ignorant of how the Bible defines boundary meaning, we often end up loading extrabiblical burdens upon ourselves that are impossible to carry. In this context, setting boundaries can help us manage our time and responsibilities effectively, ensuring that we remain faithful to our duties without neglecting other areas of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we understand these minimum standards of faithfulness, we are better informed to make wise trade-offs. You may feel internal or external pressure to travel more as a family, to serve more in the church, or to work nights and weekends, but if it leads you to no longer meet the minimum standards of faithfulness in other areas of life, then you must say no\u2014and you can do so with a clear conscience, knowing that saying no means being faithful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In many cases, biblical boundaries guide us in making these decisions. Boundaries in the Bible often relate to how we manage our time, our resources, and our relationships, ensuring that we are not overburdened or distracted from our primary commitments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Notice that much of what the Bible prescribes for faithfulness is principles rather than forms. Principles dictate what we are to do, and forms describe how we are to do them. For example, if the principle is to \u201cbring [your children] up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord,\u201d one of the forms may be to have daily family worship. I personally think (and many throughout history have thought) that having regular family worship is a wise practice (or form),[7]<\/a> but it is not the only way to carry out the principle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s important to have biblical principles and practical forms as distinct in our minds because if we misunderstand certain forms as biblically prescribed when they are not, we\u2019ll begin to think we are unfaithful when we may not be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, does the Bible prescribe us to be in transparent relationships in the church where we\u2019re intentionally doing one another spiritual good (e.g., discipling relationships)? Yes (see all the \u201cone another\u201d commands). But does the Bible require us to be in a weekly small group? No. Can you not be part of a small group and yet meaningfully live out the biblical principle of helping others to follow Jesus? Yes. Does being part of a small group automatically mean that you have such discipling relationships? No.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Keeping principles and forms distinct helps us to be more flexible (and less critical of others and ourselves) in how we carry out biblical principles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting boundaries is a crucial aspect of this flexibility. By maintaining clear boundaries, we can focus on the essential forms prescribed by God, such as participation in the ordinances and the Lord’s Day, without being overwhelmed by other obligations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With that said, the Bible does prescribe some forms. When it comes to the local church, for example, God does not leave us with only principles, but he gives divinely prescribed forms. He prescribes the ordinances of baptism and the Lord\u2019s Supper in order to mark off believers from unbelievers and to make the church visible on earth (1 Cor. 12:13; 10:17; 11:17-34; Matt. 16:13-19; 18:15-20; 28:18-20). He prescribes the Lord\u2019s Day as being uniquely set apart for gathering as a church for rest and public worship (Acts 20:7; 1 Cor. 16:1-2; Rev. 1:10). He prescribes the job description of elders (Acts 6:4; 20:17-35; 1 & 2 Timothy; Titus; 1 Pet. 5:1-4). Therefore, we must know that to ignore, replace, or practice these forms wrongly is to be unfaithful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For the longest time, I used to feel guilty for doing anything simply for the sake of my own enjoyment (\u201cThis isn\u2019t a good use of my time; I should be working on something else\u201d). I would feel uneasy about sitting down (\u201cSurely, there is something more productive I could be doing right now\u201d), and I would not permit myself to read fiction (\u201cI should be reading non-fiction books that help me get better at what I do\u201d). I thought that denying myself, taking up my cross, and following Jesus (Matt. 16:24; Mark 8:34; Luke 9:23) somehow meant that I couldn\u2019t do anything for the sake of my own enjoyment. Saying no to other people or productive activities simply to enjoy something was unthinkable for me. If I were to enjoy anything, it had to be intentionally done with someone else or a group of people, for the sake of fellowship. Enjoyment simply wasn\u2019t in my definition of faithfulness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But then, I came across these passages in Ecclesiastes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is nothing better for a person than that he should eat and drink and find enjoyment in his toil. (2:24)<\/p>\n\n\n\n I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live; also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil\u2014this is God’s gift to man. (3:12-13)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Behold, what I have seen to be good and fitting is to eat and drink and find enjoyment in all the toil with which one toils under the sun the few days of his life that God has given him, for this is his lot. Everyone also to whom God has given wealth and possessions and power to enjoy them, and to accept his lot and rejoice in his toil\u2014this is the gift of God. For he will not much remember the days of his life because God keeps him occupied with joy in his heart. (5:18-20)<\/p>\n\n\n\n And I commend joy, for man has nothing better under the sun but to eat and drink and be joyful. (8:15)<\/p>\n\n\n\n I began to realize that much of my \u201cfaithfulness\u201d had actually been unfaithfulness. Regarding these verses, one author writes, \u201cBecause God commands enjoyment, he will hold us to account for the use we have made of all his gifts, including whether we have enjoyed them as we ought.\u201d[8]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Understanding boundary meaning helped me realize that faithfulness is not just what I do but how I enjoy and give thanks for what God has already done for me and what he continues to give me each day. There is no storing up of enjoyment, but part of faithfulness is simply receiving every small, good thing as a gift from God to be enjoyed in the present\u2014and sometimes, that means setting boundaries and saying no to the next thing in order to fully enjoy the present thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yet, even with a biblical understanding of faithfulness, we may still have trouble saying no because the underlying issue inevitably comes back to the heart, which we\u2019ll look at next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reflection Questions:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Tim Keller defines an idol as \u201cwhatever you look at and say, in your heart of hearts, \u2018If I have that, then I\u2019ll feel my life has meaning, then I\u2019ll know I have value, then I\u2019ll feel significant and secure.\u2019\u201d[9]<\/a> For many of us, our idolatry is works-based (our works can get us what we want) or man-based (other people can get us what we want)\u2014or perhaps our idols are a mix of both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But what does idolatry have to do with saying no?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Difficulty in saying no often comes from the self-image that says, \u201cI\u2019m competent.\u201d We feel the need to repeatedly prove that to ourselves and others by saying yes to opportunities that showcase our competency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To say no, in some sense, would be contrary to who we understand ourselves to be because we see our meaning, value, and significance in what we do. But if we are in Christ, then we are not what we do, but we are what Christ has done for us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For me, I didn\u2019t explicitly think in the language of \u201ccompetency\u201d but \u201cfaithfulness.\u201d But this was only a baptized version of works-based righteousness (which can be understood as a stand-in for meaning, value, significance, security, or anything else we hope to gain from our works).<\/p>\n\n\n\n If we\u2019re Christians, then we know that our righteousness is not from ourselves and our own good works. After all, Paul writes, \u201cNone is righteous, no, not one\u201d (Rom. 3:10). Instead, our righteousness is in Christ and his perfect work on our behalf\u2014that is, \u201cthe righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe\u201d (Rom. 3:22).<\/p>\n\n\n\n We know this. We believe this. And yet, somehow we so often forget this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our faithfulness is not dependent on all the things we say yes to and all the things we accomplish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Rather, when we hear the words, \u201cWell done, good and faithful servant,\u201d from the lips of our Master one day, it will not be because of all our faithful works but because of the perfect work of Jesus Christ accounted to us through faith.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He is faithful, and so we are counted faithful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we remember this glorious truth, we don\u2019t need to earn or prove our faithfulness. Instead, we can say no and trust that our faithfulness is already forever secure in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting boundaries is essential to this process of saying no. By setting healthy boundaries at work, we can avoid overcommitting ourselves and neglecting the more important aspects of life, including our relationship with Christ. Knowing how to set boundaries at work can be a challenge, but it’s crucial to safeguard our mental and spiritual well-being, ensuring we don’t become overwhelmed or driven by works-based idolatry. Boundaries in work are not just about limiting time but about defining what truly matters and protecting our time for rest, relationships, and reflection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones was one of the greatest pastors and preachers of the 20th<\/sup> century. Yet, in his dying years, when he was no longer able to preach, his friend Iain Murray reported the following about his visit with him:<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I arrived in his room, he had a text. It was a text for me, and a text he had obviously been preaching to himself: \u2018And the 70 returned again with joy, saying, \u201cEven the devils are subject unto us through Thy name.\u201d In this (said our Lord) rejoice not, but rather rejoice because your names are written in heaven.\u2019 The lesson of the text, he said, is that if we are living upon what we do, if our happiness is based upon our preaching or our service for Christ, there is something deeply wrong with it. \u2018Not in this,\u2019 says our Lord, \u2018but rejoice that your names are written in heaven.\u2019 The ultimate test of a preacher is what he feels like when he cannot preach. It is a real snare for the preacher to live upon preaching. People say to me now, \u2018It must be very sad for you not to be able to preach.\u2019 \u2018Not at all,\u2019 he would reply, \u2018I was not living upon preaching. I can and do rejoice.\u2019[10]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n In order to say no, we must know that we are not living upon the things we say yes to. It doesn\u2019t matter how gifted or how fruitful our activity has been; we rest and rejoice in Christ and his perfect work on our behalf\u2014not in our works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another reason we may have trouble saying no is because of the fear of man\u2014or the desire to be loved, accepted, wanted, or needed by others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If we say no to people, we fear consequences that people can inflict on us. They could withhold their love and acceptance from us\u2014or hurt us in worse ways. If we say yes to people, we hope for the benefits that people can give us. They could affirm their love and acceptance of us\u2014or help us in more ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, the problem with all this is that we \u201csee people as \u2018bigger\u2019 (that is, more powerful and significant) than God.\u201d[11]<\/a> But Scripture repeatedly warns us of this kind of thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe. (Prov. 29:25)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. When their spirit departs, they return to the ground; on that very day, their plans come to nothing. Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God. He is the Maker of heaven and earth, the sea, and everything in them\u2014he remains faithful forever. (Ps. 146:3-6 NIV)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Stop trusting in mere humans, who have but a breath in their nostrils. Why hold them in esteem? (Isa. 2:22 NIV)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thus says the LORD: \u201cCursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the LORD. He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land. Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.\u201d (Jer. 17:5-8)<\/p>\n\n\n\n To be clear, the need for others is built into creation (Gen. 2:18), but the distortion of that need is a consequence of the fall (Gen. 3:16). The issue is one of motive and purpose. God designed us to need loving relationships with others to glorify him (John 13:35),[12]<\/a> but in our sin, our motive in relating to others has become inward-focused and for the purpose of feeding our own desire to feel good about or advance ourselves (Jas. 4:1-3). Or to put it another way: \u201cRegarding other people, our problem is that we need<\/em> them for ourselves more than we love<\/em> them for the glory of God. God sets us the task of needing<\/em> them less and loving<\/em> them more.\u201d[13]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n In order to displace the fear of man and rightly relate to people for God\u2019s glory, God must become \u201cbigger\u201d in our eyes. People shrink to proper proportions, and our desire to glorify God increases as we behold the glory of the Lord in the face of Jesus Christ (2 Cor. 3:18; 4:6).<\/p>\n\n\n\n In this context, boundary setting becomes essential. Understanding boundary meaning allows us to relate to others in a way that doesn’t place them in a position of undue power or significance over us. Instead, we set healthy boundaries in our relationships\u2014not to push people away, but to ensure that our first priority is glorifying God, not seeking affirmation from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Personally, I\u2019ve been in my fair share of situations where I\u2019ve had to say no, and it was not always received well. I\u2019ve said no to people wanting to join our church because they did not give a credible profession of faith (e.g., denying the exclusivity of Christ for salvation, denying one God in three persons, not understanding Christ\u2019s work on the cross as penal substitutionary atonement). I\u2019ve said no to officiating weddings between a believer and an unbeliever (1 Cor. 7:39). I\u2019ve said no (in a sense) to believers living in blatant sin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Setting boundaries in these situations wasn\u2019t always easy, but it was necessary. Often, boundary meaning became clearer as I understood that saying no was not an act of rejection, but rather a way to remain faithful to God’s calling and His truth. I recognized that setting these boundaries helped me preserve my faithfulness to the Lord rather than succumbing to the fear of man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And in those moments when the fear of man begins to creep up inside of me, I often think of the worst-case scenario ahead of time (\u201cThey\u2019ll yell at me, they\u2019ll tell me how horrible of a person I am, they\u2019ll slander me, they\u2019ll fire me, they\u2019ll leave me\u201d), but then I think to myself, \u201cBut if I have Christ, I\u2019ll be ok.\u201d And then, I follow through on what I believe to be most God-glorifying\u2014whether saying no or some other course of action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The reality is that the Lord can and ought to do far worse to us than what we fear from man (Matt. 10:28). Yet, rather than treating us as we deserve for our sins, for those of us in Christ, he forgives our sins, covers our shame, adopts us as children, pledges us an inheritance, and gives us himself to be our treasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we know that we stand as sinners before a holy God, we ought to be filled with terror and dread. But when we know that Christ has made us sons and daughters before our heavenly Father, we ought to be filled with awe, reverence, devotion, trust, and worship.[14]<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n In my prayers, I often remind myself of this wonder: \u201cGod, though I am a wretched sinner, thank you for making me your beloved son.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
2 Why Do You Have Trouble Saying No? (Head)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Distorted Understanding of Faithfulness<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Minimum Standards of Faithfulness<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Principles vs. Forms<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Enjoyment as Part of Faithfulness<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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3 Why Do You Have Trouble Saying No? (Heart)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Defining Idolatry<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Works-Based Idolatry<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Man-Based Idolatry<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n