#41 Gratitude & Appreciation; Shifting from Complaint to Contentment
Introduction
We all focus on what’s missing in our lives because it is easy to do so. There are things we wish were different, such as the goals we didn’t reach or the struggles we face. But gratitude changes our perspective. It helps us see what God has already done for us rather than look at the things we need to wait for.
The Bible teaches us gratitude more deeply – it is more than just saying “thank you.” It helps cultivate a God-centered life filled with joy, peace, and reverence for His greatness.
When people really appreciate and give thanks to God for the small aspects of life, they feel much lighter in their hearts, their faith grows stronger, and they truly attain happiness, knowing that He is always there.
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Audio#41 Gratitude & Appreciation; Shifting from Complaint to Contentment
Understanding Gratitude Through The Holy Scriptures
Key Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:18
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
Most of us think gratitude is something as simple as saying “thank you” when someone does a kind thing for us. But according to the Bible, gratitude is so much more. It is not just about the words but what’s in our hearts. Being truly grateful is not just about reacting to the good things but it is about recognizing God’s greatness in every situation, even when life is not perfect.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” This means that gratitude is not just pretending everything is perfect, but it’s about trusting God to do things in His own way, regardless of what’s going on in our lives.
Gratitude Comes From The Heart
What we say in specific situations does not show gratitude, but how we see the world and respond to life lessons shows true gratitude. It is easy to be grateful when life is good, but what about when things take an unexpected turn? When your prayers are not being answered? That is the true test of gratitude.
Saying, “Even though these are hard times, I will get through it because I trust in God.” is a perfect display of gratitude. It means choosing to focus on His blessings rather than dwelling on what we lack.
When we learn to appreciate God for who He is, our faith matures. We no longer assess our gratitude based on our surroundings and instead find it in God’s unending love.
Worldly Gratitude Vs Biblical Gratitude
The world tells us to be grateful when things are going our way and life is comfortable. But biblical gratitude is something different. Unlike worldly teaching, biblical gratitude focuses on the fact that God is always looking out for us, and it doesn’t always have to be something big – even the small and trivial ones that we often ignore.
We are reminded in James 1:17, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights who does not change like shifting shadows.” This shows that even the simple things in life, such as life, health, relationships, and even day-to-day activities, are all gifts provided to us by God.
But what if everything is going south? The struggles and disappointments make it hard to trust anything, which can lead to confusion. It is during these moments that trust reflects gratitude. Choosing to thank God during these hard times shows that our faith relies on him and not the current circumstances in life.
How Gratitude Alters Our Perspective
Without gratitude, it’s simple to point out everything wrong in our lives. We feel frustrated due to the comparisons we make. Negativity floods our minds and takes control. But with gratitude, everything changes. We can appreciate the good things even during hardships.
When you actively practice gratitude, life takes a positive turn. It doesn’t imply ignoring problems or pretending to be in a perfect situation. Instead, appreciate the blessings we have from God while trying to resolve our issues.
Gratitude Strengthens Our Faith
Each time we thank God under all circumstances, we strengthen our faith. For example, saying that I do not have to see the whole picture to know God has it under control is a way of showing strong faith.
This kind of faith is strong and helps us during life’s most difficult moments. It helps us realize that our assurance is not based on what surrounds us but on God’s Goodness and how much He cares.
Psalm 136:1 says, “Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good. His love endures forever.” This means to give thanks because God is good. His love is unchanging, His promises are true, and His presence is constant.
How Gratitude Impacts Our Daily Lives
When we are grateful, it impacts every part of our lives. It changes how we pray, think and treat others.
Thanksgiving in Prayer – We come to God to appreciate what He has done for us, rather than only coming to make requests.
Thanksgiving in Our Thoughts – Instead of focusing on problems, we try to focus on what God has done.
Thanksgiving in Our Relationships – People will always take things for granted, but gratitude teaches us to show appreciation more often and genuinely say ‘thank you.’”
Becoming thankful is beneficial because it changes us. We end up more joyful, more content, and more aware of God in our lives.
A Life Rooted in Thankfulness
The core of gratitude is trust: trust that He is at work, that He is faithful, and that He knows what is best for us. Pretending to live a perfect life isn’t gratitude, but rather acknowledging all of God’s presence and mercy even during hardships. It’s about praising Him regardless of the conditions.
Choosing to live with gratitude results in having an even deeper connection with God, more joy, and more peace. With gratitude comes acceptance, recognizing that He always embraces them in love.
I suggest that you take a break from whatever you are doing to look around you. One can appreciate God by acknowledging His forever presence while reflecting on the world around him. That is the essence of true gratitude.
How Gratitude Strengthens Our Faith and Relationships
Gratitude has the ability to change everything in a person’s life. As one tends to be more grateful, one’s heart becomes softer, one’s attention is refocused, and one’s thoughts are on the most important aspects in life. If a person actively chooses to be grateful, their mindset and attitude towards life improves, and they no longer worry about what they lack. Instead, they start appreciating the things that God has provided for them. This change in perspective is beneficial on many levels; it strengthens the individual’s faith and enriches their relationships.
Gratitude Reminds Us of God’s Goodness
Life can be unpredictable. Some days can be full of happiness, while some days can be exhausting and challenging. But regardless of what happens, God’s goodness is everlasting.
“Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name” Psalm 100:4. While drawing closer to God, giving thanks is an essential practice. Taking time off to appreciate God brings to light how He is always present, providing, and loving unconditionally.
No matter how difficult a season is, there is always something one can appreciate. Friends who encouraged you during your lowest moments, the peace you found on stressful days, or simply getting an opportunity to grow in faith are reasons to appreciate God.
When we begin to search for God’s blessings, we start noticing them everywhere. Recognizing goodness in the little things as an act of faith enables an individual to build strong trust in divine power.
Gratitude Enhances Our Relationships
Appreciation is a kind of feeling that we treasure in our hearts. It does something miraculous to the faith that we have in ourselves and positively affects the way we interact with others around us. Developing a habit of appreciation allows us to acknowledge the role of people in our lives.
Think of a time when someone genuinely thanked you. Words of appreciation, such as ‘I appreciate you’ or ‘Thank you for being there, hold great value because they affirm and uplift us.
Appreciation works both ways. The moment you acknowledge someone’s kindness, whether it’s in the form of a constructive attitude or showing kindness, it strengthens your bond with the other. This mutual acknowledgment encourages a culture where appreciation becomes a natural part of interactions. Over time, when people consistently express gratitude and recognize each other’s efforts, it fosters an environment where kindness and encouragement are valued, creating a positive and appreciative community.
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:15. This verse speaks of letting peace rule in our hearts and being thankful. While gratitude is part of peace, the main focus of the verse is unity within the body of Christ.
Thankfulness Overcomes Negativity
When a friend disappoints you, a family member bothers you, or a coworker gets on your nerves, it’s very easy to get stressed. The very first thing that comes to mind is to vent, and as we know, venting is negative. But gratitude, in many ways, has the power to shift our focus.
Our spouse is there to provide support in difficult times but can forget to take the trash out. Our friends do not call for an extended period but are there during times of need. Our coworkers, too, contribute in various meaningful ways.
In this case, when we choose to become grateful, a shift is made. We start to look at our friends and coworkers from a different perspective, one in which we can appreciate and respect what they have done for us in the past instead of forming a negative perspective.
Appreciation Leads To Stronger Bonds
Respect and love build deeper levels of gratitude and appreciation, thus strengthening bonds in marriages, friendships or families.
Ephesians 4:29 states, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” While practicing gratitude, we actively choose to build someone’s character instead of breaking them down with words.
Not only do we advocate encouraging words and actions, but instead of passing down harsh judgment, we offer grace. Most people choose to complain, but we prefer to be appreciative.
Appreciation helps one forgive easily. When focusing on the good in others, it is much easier to overlook minor insults. We start to consider one’s flaws and imperfections as someone who needs grace like we do.
Discussion: Why Are You Thankful Today?
Let’s pause for a second. Lately, what are the things that God has done in your life that you appreciate?
It could be as small as a friend giving you a nice compliment or as big as a prayer being answered. Consider the people in your life. Who has motivated you? Who stood beside you? What can you do to thank them?
Appreciation is more than just the gifts and presents that we get; it is also the reaction that we choose to take. Appreciating and nurturing that feeling helps us grow and strengthen faith in ourselves, builds relationships, and allows for the beautiful feelings that arise from granting goodness in oneself during any phase of life to be felt.
Overcoming Obstacles to Gratitude
Key Scripture: Philippians 4:6-7
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation… present your requests to God with thanksgiving.”
Gratitude sounds simple—just be thankful, right? But in reality, it’s not always easy. There are things that get in the way, such as thoughts and attitudes, that make it hard to recognize God’s blessings. Sometimes, we’re so focused on what’s missing that we forget to appreciate what we already have.
Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
This verse doesn’t just tell us to pray—it tells us to pray with thanksgiving. It’s a choice we make in every situation. But to truly live with gratitude, we have to recognize what’s holding us back.
The Barrier of Entitlement
One of the biggest obstacles to gratitude is entitlement—the belief that we deserve more than what we have. It’s easy to slip into the mindset of thinking, I should have more money. I should be further in life. I should have a better job, a bigger house, or an easier life.
Entitlement convinces us that what we have isn’t enough. Instead of being thankful, we feel frustrated that things aren’t exactly the way we want them to be. But the truth is, everything we have is a gift from God.
James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights.” That means nothing we have is owed to us—it’s all given by God’s grace.
When we recognize that, gratitude starts to take over. Instead of feeling like we deserve more, we start appreciating what God has already provided. We stop focusing on what’s missing and start recognizing how much we’ve been blessed.
Comparison: The Thief of Gratitude
Another major gratitude blocker is comparison. We live in a world where it’s easier than ever to see what others have. Social media constantly reminds us of people who seem to be doing better—better jobs, better vacations, better lives. And when we compare ourselves to others, we start feeling like we’re falling behind.
Instead of thanking God for what we have, we focus on what we don’t have. We see someone else’s success and feel discouraged. We see their blessings and forget our own.
But here’s the truth: comparison is a lie. It makes us believe that someone else’s journey is connected to ours. But God’s plan for you is unique. What He is doing in someone else’s life has no impact on what He is doing in yours.
Galatians 6:4 reminds us, “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.”
When we let go of comparison, we free ourselves to focus on what God is doing in our own lives. We start appreciating our own blessings instead of constantly measuring them against others.
Negativity and the Power of Perspective
Negativity is another thing that blocks gratitude. When we’re constantly focused on what’s wrong, it’s hard to see what’s right.
Life is not always easy. There will be struggles, disappointments, and setbacks. But when we let negativity take over, we miss out on the joy of the present moment.
Gratitude isn’t about ignoring problems—it’s about choosing to see the good even in the middle of them. It’s about recognizing that God is still working, even when life is difficult.
Colossians 3:15 says, “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts… and be thankful.” Peace and gratitude go hand in hand. When we focus on what God has done, we find peace in knowing He is still in control.
Choosing Gratitude in Difficult Times
One of the hardest things about gratitude is practicing it when life feels unfair. It’s easy to be thankful when things are going well. But what about when they’re not?
The Bible doesn’t tell us to only give thanks when life is perfect. It tells us to give thanks in all circumstances.
That means thanking God even when things aren’t going as planned. It means trusting that He is working, even when we can’t see it yet.
Romans 8:28 reminds us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.” That means even in the hard times, God is doing something good.
Breaking Free from Gratitude Blockers
If entitlement, comparison, or negativity has been getting in the way of your gratitude, it’s time to break free.
Start by shifting your focus. Instead of looking at what’s missing, start noticing what’s already there.
Instead of saying, Why don’t I have more? Say, Thank You, God, for what I do have.
Instead of thinking, Their life looks better than mine, say, God’s plan for me is good, and I trust Him.
Instead of dwelling on what’s wrong, start looking for what’s right.
Gratitude isn’t about having a perfect life—it’s about having a heart that sees God’s goodness in every season.
How Trusting God Helps Us Remain Thankful in Tough Times
Gratitude comes naturally when life is good. When prayers are answered, when things go as planned, when blessings are obvious—it’s easy to say, Thank You, God. But what about when life is hard? When things fall apart, when prayers seem unanswered, when struggles feel overwhelming—how do we remain thankful then?
The answer isn’t found in pretending everything is fine. It’s found in trusting God.
Gratitude in difficult times is not about ignoring pain or forcing a smile when things hurt. It’s about believing that, even in the struggle, God is still good. It’s about knowing that His plans are greater than our circumstances and that He is working, even when we can’t see it yet.
Why Gratitude Feels Difficult in Hard Seasons
When life gets tough, gratitude often feels out of reach. In those moments, our natural instinct is to focus on the problem in front of us. We ask questions like:
Why is this happening?Where is God in this?What if things don’t get better?
Hard times bring uncertainty. They make us feel like we’ve lost control. And when we feel uncertain, it’s hard to see the good.
But here’s the truth: God is still present in the struggle. Just because life feels uncertain doesn’t mean God is absent. He is still working, still guiding, still providing—just maybe in ways we don’t understand yet.
When we trust that God is still in control, even when things don’t make sense, gratitude starts to take root. We begin to see that there are still blessings, even in the broken places.
Choosing Gratitude When Life Feels Unfair
It’s easy to be grateful when everything is going well, but what about when life feels unfair? When you lose a job, when relationships break down, when dreams don’t go as planned—how do you still give thanks?
The Bible says to be thankful “in all” circumstances because gratitude is not just for the good days. It’s for the hard ones, too. Not because we enjoy the struggle but because we trust that God is doing something greater than we can see right now.
Joseph in the Bible is a perfect example of this. Joseph’s life was marked by betrayal, yet God was always at work. As his father’s favorite son, Joseph’s brothers grew jealous of him, especially after he shared dreams of his future leadership (Genesis 37:5-8). Their envy turned to hatred, and they threw him into a pit before selling him into slavery (Genesis 37:23-28).
Joseph didn’t see the purpose in his pain at that moment, but he trusted that God was still in control. What seemed like a terrible situation was actually part of a greater plan.
Faith and Gratitude Go Hand in Hand
Gratitude is not just about feeling thankful but it’s an act of faith. It’s choosing to say, God, I don’t understand this, but I trust You anyway.
When Paul wrote to the Philippians, he wasn’t in a comfortable situation. He was in prison. Yet, he still encouraged believers to turn to God in every situation with prayer and thanksgiving, assuring them that God’s peace would guard their hearts and minds.
Paul was in chains, yet he still chose gratitude. He was in prison, for crying out loud. Still, he encouraged the believers to seek God in every situation through prayer and thanksgiving. He promised God’s peace to guard their hearts and minds.
Paul was in chains, yet still chose gratitude. He knew that no prison, hardship, or suffering could take away the peace that comes from trusting God. This is what gratitude looks like during hard times: not stepping on the pain, but choosing not to let it take your faith. Trusting that God’s goodness does not depend on circumstances.
How Trusting God Changes Our Perspective
When we don’t trust God, our struggles feel bigger than they are. Every problem seems overwhelming, every setback feels final, every hardship feels like it will never end.
But when we trust God, we start to see our struggles differently. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, we start looking for what God is doing.
Trust allows us to say
- This situation is hard, but God is still good.
- I don’t have all the answers, but God is still in control.
- I don’t see the way forward yet, but God is already making a way.
Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” That means that in every struggle, God is there. And if He is there, we can trust that we are never alone.
Finding Gratitude in the Small Things
Sometimes, when life is hard, we miss the small blessings. We are so focused on the big problem that we don’t notice the little ways God is still showing up.
But gratitude often starts with the little things:
- A friend who checks in on you.
- A moment of peace on a stressful day.
- The strength to get through one more step.
- A reminder of God’s promises when you need them most.
When we stop and notice these moments, our faith grows. We realize that, even in the hardest seasons, God has not abandoned us. He is still providing, still loving, still walking with us.
Discussion: What Makes It Hard to Be Grateful Sometimes?
Take a moment to reflect. What are the things that make gratitude difficult for you? Is it fear of the future? Disappointment? A struggle that doesn’t seem to end?
It’s okay to admit that gratitude is hard sometimes. The good news is that God understands. He doesn’t expect us to have it all figured out. He just invites us to trust Him, one step at a time.
Gratitude in tough times is not about ignoring pain. It’s about choosing to believe that God is still working, still good, and still with you—even in the hardest moments. And when we trust that, we can remain thankful, no matter what.
Expressing Appreciation to God and Others
Key Scripture: Colossians 3:17
“And whatever you do… do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Gratitude is more than just a thought—it’s something we express. It’s easy to feel thankful, but unless we show it, the impact often gets lost. True appreciation is meant to be seen, heard, and shared. It deepens our connection with God and strengthens our relationships with others.
Colossians 3:17 reminds us, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” This means that gratitude is not just an occasional feeling but a lifestyle. Every action, every word, and every interaction is an opportunity to reflect a heart of gratitude.
But how do we do this? How can we turn gratitude from just a nice idea into something we practice daily?
Showing Appreciation to God
God’s blessings can get easily overlooked. We get trapped in our schedules, shifting from one activity to another, and often forget to recognize the one who provides us with everything. However, remembering all He has done helps transform our lives. Everything including his presence, creation’s beauty, or life lessons showcases his goodness.
One of the many ways to appreciate God is through prayer. Not asking for things but thanking Him for what He has already provided. Instead of requesting the Lord for things, begin your prayer by saying ‘Thank You’ or ‘Thank you for today. For the people around me, thank you for guiding me.’ Through worship, expressing gratitude is made simple. Worship goes beyond just singing. It comprises turning our hearts to Him and paying attention to His awesomeness so as to respond with thankfulness. Through music, journaling, or simple verbiage of gratitude, worship moves our hearts to him.
Psalm 95:2 says, “Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song.” This means that when we worship God, it reminds us of who He is and how His gratitude flows naturally from a place of awe and reverence.
Being Grateful To The Lord Through Our Actions
Gratitude is not just something we say, it is expressed through our actions. The best way to show gratitude and appreciation is through how we live. When we appreciate what God has given, we care for it.
That means being a good steward of our time, talents, and resources. It means taking care of our relationships, being generous with our kindness, and using what we have to bless others.
In Matthew 25:21, Jesus said, “Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things.” When we show God how gracious we are by being faithful and taking care of the gifts He has given us, we put God in the position to trust us and bless us with more gifts.
An open, gracious heart encourages others. It makes it easier for one to spread kindness to others. This can be done in the form of:
- Helping someone overcome their struggles.
- It’s like lending something with nothing in return.
- Giving to others selflessly with joy so that it does not feel like an obligation.
Expressing Gratitude Towards Others
When it comes to relationships, gratitude goes a long way. It isn’t solely reserved for God. Gratitude can positively change how we interact with one another. Try saying “Thank you” each time someone does anything for you, whether that’s small or big. Often, we have no idea how much power these two words carry. A “thank you” is capable of uplifting someone’s spirit, healing old wounds, and strengthening bonds.
Think of the people in your life who supported, encouraged, or even stood by you. How many times do you express gratitude and tell them how much they mean to you?
More so, we also take what people do and say for granted and assume they already know we appreciate them. With words, we can turn dry appreciation into something meaningful. A kind note, warm conversation, or a well-thought-out message can do wonders because words matter.
In Ephesians 4:29, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Gratitude-filled words go a long way. Giving others a soothing effect and reminding them how important they are.
Gratitude is not only shown through words but also expressed in action. Helping, being patient, and offering support, especially during a friend’s tough time, are all small gestures showing appreciation. And in return, it can make your friend feel special.
Creating a Daily Habit of Gratitude
Developing a lifestyle of gratitude doesn’t happen overnight. It takes intentionality. But the more we practice it, the more natural it becomes.
Here are a few ways to cultivate gratitude every day:
- Start and end the day with thankfulness. Before you get out of bed, thank God for a new day. Before you sleep, reflect on what you’re grateful for.
- Write it down. Keep a gratitude journal where you jot down things you appreciate each day.
- Say it out loud. Tell people how much you appreciate them. Be specific about what they mean to you.
- Pause to notice the little things. A sunrise, a warm meal, a kind word—there are blessings all around when we take the time to see them.
- Turn complaints into gratitude. Instead of saying, “I have to do this,” try saying, “I get to do this.” Shifting perspective changes everything.
Gratitude is one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to draw closer to God and to others. It changes our hearts, strengthens our relationships, and helps us focus on what truly matters. But it’s not just about feeling thankful—it’s about expressing it.
Cultivating a Habit of Appreciation in Words and Actions
Gratitude is not just something we feel—it’s something we do. It’s a habit, a daily practice that shapes the way we see the world, interact with others, and grow in our faith. The more we practice appreciation, the more it becomes second nature. And the more we express gratitude, the more we notice things to be grateful for.
But forming a habit of gratitude doesn’t happen overnight. It takes intention, consistency, and a willingness to change our perspective. Many people think gratitude is only for big, life-changing moments, but in reality, it’s found in the small, everyday things—the things we often overlook.
Why Gratitude Needs to Be Intentional
As life becomes busy and stressful, it’s easy to forget to show appreciation. More often than not, if gratitude is not intentional, it’s something we only practice when things are good.
It is easy to think we have to wait for good circumstances to be grateful, but true gratitude is much more than that. It is the ability to see the blessings even in difficult times. As quoted in Psalm 118:24, “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Every day is a blessing, and it is our choice whether to appreciate it or complain about what’s wrong.
Now, the question is, how do these routines help make gratitude an everyday thing? From repeating the process so often, at what point does being grateful stop being an option one has to decide on and instead become something one does naturally, every day without thinking?
Expressing Appreciation in Daily Life
Gratitude should be expressed in words. For example, when someone says, “I have so much to do today,” a more appreciative phrase would be, “I’m grateful for the opportunities I have.” Or consider saying, “Thank You, God, for what I already have” instead of “I wish I had more.” Moreover, rather than keeping appreciation silent, it is always nice to tell people, “I appreciate you.”
Appreciation isn’t meant to be dormant. It must be verbalized. It must be expressed in day-to-day conversation—the appreciation has to come out of the mouth. Whether it is expressing gratitude for a blessing or appreciating something done by someone else, it has to be recognized promptly and verbally.
Words infused with gratitude seem to have dual benefits—the one who receives it and feels appreciated, as well as the person who extends it, appreciates it and becomes grounded in reality and reminded of all the good that is around him or her. Hence, it becomes truly important to express oneself in words and also extend praises within a community.
Proverbs 16:24 says, ‘Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.’”
Showing Appreciation Through Actions
Gratitude is more than words—it’s also about what we do. A thankful heart naturally leads to acts of kindness, generosity, and thoughtfulness.
Think about the people in your life who have helped you, encouraged you, or simply been there for you. How often do you show them you appreciate them? Not just with words, but with actions?
- Writing a heartfelt note to someone who has impacted your life.
- Helping a friend or family member without being asked.
- Going out of your way to thank someone for their efforts.
- Being present and attentive when someone needs support.
Even small gestures—like a smile, a kind message, or taking time to listen—can make a big difference. Gratitude is best expressed not just through what we say but through how we treat others.
Turning Gratitude into a Daily Practice
Gratitude is like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets. The easiest way to build the habit is to work it into daily routines.
One simple habit is starting and ending each day with gratitude. Before you even get out of bed, take a moment to thank God for another day. Before you sleep, reflect on at least one thing you’re grateful for.
Another habit is keeping a gratitude journal. Writing down even just a few things each day that you appreciate helps train your mind to focus on the good.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” When we make gratitude a daily habit, it becomes part of who we are—not just something we do when life is easy.
Discussion: How Can You Express Gratitude More Often?
Gratitude is meant to be shared. It’s not just about feeling thankful—it’s about expressing it in ways that impact our faith, our relationships, and our daily lives.
So, take a moment to reflect:
- Are there people in your life you haven’t thanked recently?
- How often do you express appreciation to God in prayer?
- What small daily habits could you start to help gratitude become second nature?
Maybe it’s setting a reminder to thank God every morning. Maybe it’s making an effort to compliment and encourage the people around you. Maybe it’s choosing to see the good in a tough situation instead of focusing on the negatives.
Whatever it is, the key is intentionality. The more we practice gratitude, the more natural it becomes. And the more we express it, the more we inspire others to do the same.
Gratitude isn’t just something we do—it’s a way of life. And when we make it a habit, it changes everything.
Living a Life of Thankfulness
Key Scripture: Psalm 100:4
“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise…”
Gratitude is more than just a temporary feeling—it’s a way of life. It’s easy to be thankful when something good happens, but real gratitude goes deeper. It’s not just about reacting to blessings; it’s about choosing to see life through a lens of appreciation, no matter the circumstances.
Psalm 100:4 says, “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” This verse is a reminder that thankfulness isn’t just something we practice when everything is going well—it’s an attitude we carry with us daily.
But how do we make gratitude a lifestyle? How do we shift from being thankful only when things go our way to having a heart of thankfulness in every season of life?
Shifting from Temporary Gratitude to Lasting Thankfulness
Many people view gratitude as something that comes and goes, depending on their circumstances. When life is smooth, they are full of appreciation. When things get tough, gratitude fades. But true thankfulness isn’t supposed to be temporary. It’s a mindset, a perspective, and a way of living.
This doesn’t mean we have to pretend everything is perfect. It means we learn to see God’s goodness even in our struggles. We trust that He is working, even when we don’t understand.
Thankfulness isn’t about ignoring reality—it’s about acknowledging that no matter what’s happening, there is always something to be grateful for. Even when we are in pain, we can thank God for His presence. Even in uncertainty, we can thank Him for His faithfulness. Gratitude becomes a constant, not just a reaction.
A Thankful Heart Changes Everything
When we commit to living a life of thankfulness, it transforms how we see the world. It affects our attitude, our relationships, and even our faith.
- It brings joy. A thankful heart focuses on what is good rather than what is missing. Instead of dwelling on disappointments, it recognizes the blessings that are already there.
- It strengthens faith. When we make gratitude a daily practice, we start to see how God is working in every situation, and our trust in Him grows.
- It deepens relationships. People who express thankfulness regularly are more positive, more encouraging, and more loving toward others.
Thankfulness doesn’t change our circumstances, but it does change our perspective. It allows us to navigate life with more peace, even when things don’t go as planned.
Choosing Gratitude in Every Season
It’s easy to be thankful when life is full of answered prayers and open doors. But what about in seasons of waiting? What about when life feels uncertain, when challenges arise, or when things don’t turn out the way we hoped?
The Bible doesn’t say to only be thankful when life is easy. It tells us to give thanks for all things.
That means choosing gratitude even when:
- Prayers haven’t been answered yet.
- Life feels overwhelming.
- We don’t have everything we want.
- We’re facing difficulties.
This doesn’t mean we have to be thankful for struggles. But we can be thankful for them. We can thank God for His strength, His guidance, and His promises, even when things are hard.
Habakkuk 3:17-18 says, “Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines… yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Savior.” This verse shows that gratitude isn’t about what we have—it’s about trusting in who God is.
Turning Gratitude into a Daily Practice
Living a life of thankfulness requires intention. It’s not something that just happens; it’s something we choose.
One of the best ways to build a lifestyle of gratitude is to start small. Instead of waiting for big moments to feel thankful, begin noticing the little things—waking up to a new day, having food to eat, being surrounded by loved ones.
Another way is to practice verbal gratitude. Speak out thankfulness regularly. Thank God in prayer. Thank the people in your life. Let gratitude become part of your conversations.
Philippians 4:8 encourages us to focus on what is good: “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
When we train our minds to focus on what is good, gratitude naturally follows.
Gratitude as a Reflection of Faith
A thankful heart reflects a deep trust in God. When we choose gratitude, we are saying, “God, I trust that You are good, even when life is uncertain. I trust that You are working, even when I can’t see the outcome.”
Thankfulness is an act of faith. It reminds us that God’s plans are greater than our own. It keeps our focus on Him rather than our problems.
Psalm 136:1 says, “Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good. His love endures forever.” A thankful life is not about having perfect circumstances—it’s about knowing we serve a good God who is always faithful.
Encouraging a Grateful Heart in All Circumstances
We all have a habit of thanking God for the best things in life, but what do we do when there is uncertainty? Disappointment? When nothing seems to be working out? Is it at all possible to maintain a positive and grateful heart in such dire situations?
The Bible teaches us to offer thanks even in the midst of a storm. Gratitude should not be confined to the good moments of life. Even during difficult times, choosing to trust that there’s God orchestrating our existence is the true essence of gratitude.
Gratitude is a Mindset, Not a Moment
Biblical gratitude is very different from gratitude in general. People express gratitude when life treats them well and fail to show appreciation when faced with hardships. However, gratitude is not the same when viewed through a biblical lens.
Gratitude cannot be a choice, it has to be a mindset one adopts. Regardless of the situation surrounding the individual, gratitude should not change thanks to trust and faith in God. One should believe that He is always working, even when the result is not visible at the moment.
Paul states in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Paul very clearly did not state to be thankful for every good and bad while living, rather stated that gratitude needs to be present for everything the universe has to offer. Gratitude for every situation, regardless of being good or bad. Thus, gratitude can be thanked for giving us the presence of God in pain while not being required in exchange for suffering gratitude itself.
Every ounce of gratitude in every breath taken by a human requires extreme practice. First and foremost, the ability to force oneself to focus on the greater good rather than personal gain is required. Finding ways to express gratitude over pain is the first step.
Why Gratitude Is Hard When Life Feels Unfair
Let’s be honest—there are moments when gratitude feels impossible. When you lose a loved one. When a relationship ends. When life takes an unexpected turn. In these moments, saying “Be grateful” can feel frustrating.
But gratitude in difficult seasons doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine. It means trusting that God is still writing your story. It’s about shifting your focus from “Why is this happening?” to “How can I trust God through this?”
Think about Joseph in the Bible. Even in prison, Joseph remained faithful, and God’s plan unfolded. Years later, he told his brothers in Genesis 50:20, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.” When we trust that God is still working in our tough seasons, we can find gratitude even when things don’t look good yet.
Joseph’s gratitude wasn’t based on perfect circumstances. It was based on his faith that God was in control, even when life seemed unfair.
Finding Gratitude in the Small Things
One of the easiest ways to cultivate a grateful heart is to start noticing the small blessings. It’s easy to focus on the big things we’re waiting for—a new job, healing, a breakthrough. But in doing that, we sometimes miss the small ways God is showing up every day.
- Waking up to a new day.
- A kind word from a friend.
- Strength to get through a difficult moment.
- A simple meal on the table.
When we take time to notice these things, we realize that even in hard seasons, there are still moments of grace. God’s presence is in the little things just as much as the big ones.
Psalm 103:2 says, “Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits.” When we intentionally look for the blessings in our lives, our perspective begins to shift.
Trusting God Even When You Don’t Feel Grateful
Some days, gratitude comes naturally. Other days, it feels impossible. But here’s the truth: We don’t have to feel grateful to choose gratitude.
In Habakkuk 3:17-18, the prophet writes, “Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines… yet I will rejoice in the Lord, I will be joyful in God my Savior.”
Did you catch that? Yet. Habakkuk didn’t ignore his problems. He acknowledged them. But he chose to praise God anyway.
Gratitude is an act of faith. It says, “I may not understand what’s happening, but I trust that God is still good.” It’s about believing that even in the waiting, in the struggle, in the unknown, He is working on all things for our good.
Steps to Living with More Gratitude
If gratitude doesn’t always come naturally, how can we build it into our daily lives?
- Start Each Day with ThanksgivingBefore checking your phone or worrying about the day ahead, take a moment to thank God. Even if it’s just, “Thank You, Lord, for waking me up today.” Gratitude in the morning sets the tone for the rest of the day.
- Shift Your Perspective in Difficult Moments When something frustrating happens, ask yourself, “What can I still be thankful for in this situation?” Maybe your day didn’t go as planned, but you had the strength to get through it. Maybe the door is closed, but another opportunity is coming.
- Express Gratitude to Others Gratitude isn’t just between us and God—it should overflow into our relationships. Thank the people around you more often. Let them know you appreciate them. A simple “I’m grateful for you” can make a huge difference.
- Keep a Gratitude Journal Write down at least three things you’re thankful for each day. They don’t have to be big. Even “I had a good conversation today” or “The sun was shining” is enough. Over time, you’ll train your heart to focus on the good.
- Pray with a Thankful Heart Instead of only asking God for things in prayer, take time to simply thank Him. Thank Him for what He’s done, for what He’s doing, and for what He will do in the future.
- Turn Worries into Worship The next time you start feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath and thank God for something at that moment. Maybe you don’t have all the answers, but you have His presence. Maybe you don’t know what’s next, but you know He is with you.
Discussion: What Steps Can You Take to Live with More Gratitude?
Think about your own life. Are there areas where gratitude comes easily? Are there areas where it’s more difficult?
- What small blessings have you overlooked recently?
- How can you shift your focus when challenges come?
- What habits can you start today to build a lifestyle of thankfulness?
Gratitude isn’t something that happens by accident. It’s a choice. And when we make that choice daily, we begin to see life in a whole new way.
Living with a grateful heart doesn’t mean ignoring struggles or pretending life is perfect. It means choosing to trust God, even when things are uncertain. It’s about recognizing that, no matter what we face, there is always something to be thankful for.
Psalm 136:1 says, “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.” No matter what happens in life, God’s love never changes. That alone is reason enough to be grateful.
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Table of Contents
- Understanding Gratitude Through The Holy Scriptures
- Key Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:18
- Gratitude Comes From The Heart
- Worldly Gratitude Vs Biblical Gratitude
- How Gratitude Alters Our Perspective
- Gratitude Strengthens Our Faith
- How Gratitude Impacts Our Daily Lives
- A Life Rooted in Thankfulness
- How Gratitude Strengthens Our Faith and Relationships
- Gratitude Reminds Us of God’s Goodness
- Gratitude Enhances Our Relationships
- Thankfulness Overcomes Negativity
- Appreciation Leads To Stronger Bonds
- Discussion: Why Are You Thankful Today?
- Overcoming Obstacles to Gratitude
- Key Scripture: Philippians 4:6-7
- The Barrier of Entitlement
- Comparison: The Thief of Gratitude
- Negativity and the Power of Perspective
- Choosing Gratitude in Difficult Times
- Breaking Free from Gratitude Blockers
- How Trusting God Helps Us Remain Thankful in Tough Times
- Why Gratitude Feels Difficult in Hard Seasons
- Choosing Gratitude When Life Feels Unfair
- Faith and Gratitude Go Hand in Hand
- How Trusting God Changes Our Perspective
- Finding Gratitude in the Small Things
- Discussion: What Makes It Hard to Be Grateful Sometimes?
- Expressing Appreciation to God and Others
- Key Scripture: Colossians 3:17
- Showing Appreciation to God
- Being Grateful To The Lord Through Our Actions
- Expressing Gratitude Towards Others
- Creating a Daily Habit of Gratitude
- Cultivating a Habit of Appreciation in Words and Actions
- Why Gratitude Needs to Be Intentional
- Expressing Appreciation in Daily Life
- Showing Appreciation Through Actions
- Turning Gratitude into a Daily Practice
- Discussion: How Can You Express Gratitude More Often?
- Living a Life of Thankfulness
- Key Scripture: Psalm 100:4
- Shifting from Temporary Gratitude to Lasting Thankfulness
- A Thankful Heart Changes Everything
- Choosing Gratitude in Every Season
- Turning Gratitude into a Daily Practice
- Gratitude as a Reflection of Faith
- Encouraging a Grateful Heart in All Circumstances
- Gratitude is a Mindset, Not a Moment
- Why Gratitude Is Hard When Life Feels Unfair
- Finding Gratitude in the Small Things
- Trusting God Even When You Don’t Feel Grateful
- Steps to Living with More Gratitude
- Discussion: What Steps Can You Take to Live with More Gratitude?